A parental "how do you feel about"?

My guess is that some people simply deal with it better than others. I know several people that were pretty badly abused in the past. Some overcome it and don't let it become an issue and some other simply can't do that. I guess it depends how strong the individual is. But I do agree it's not an excuse for bad behavior. It's ok to be scared or depressed, but to hurt others or yourself is not ok.